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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.08.25 16:38:00 -
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Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 16:48:53
Civil service on 11/11/2011 starting at 13:30 (with 10-minute slots), so if I'm lucky, pronouncement will be at 13:37. Yes, we got the reservation confirmation already. MWAHAHAHA.
Wife keeps old name, we'll also be filing for separate finances (hooray, finally the laws that allow that come into effect in a little over a month from now), will still be living in separate cities and just visit eachother when we can find the time for a while, until the "big wedding" (probably somewhere in April, or maybe later), when we MIGHT be moving in together.
When I say "big wedding" I mean everything except the civil service - you know, all that stuff with the stupid church (hopefully we can get a under-10-minute service there too, we're both non-religious anyway, but the older relatives are, so, meh) and the sort-of-party with oodles of relatives and acquaintances afterwards.
By the way, the day was her idea, the hour was mine (but I didn't tell her why :evulz:). And SHE asked me to get married all out of the blue (it was just hours after she got back to her home after a 1-week visit over here), and I said "oh, well, why not" How freaking romantic, eh ?
The relationship has been going on for nearly 10 years now (with two breaks), but more than half of it was medium distance (3h drive or so) with about two and a half years of long distance (different countries) in 3 separate countries (USA, Germany, Turkey) overlapping both. Also, never lived together under the same roof so far (visiting doesn't count, right?) so it might get dicey when we finally move in together, heh. Freaky arrangement, eh ?
Oh, well, guess this means my heavy posting days will be coming to an end sooner or later... I'll still be around for sure, but not as much as usual. Heh.
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Cpt Greagor
Caldari Liquid Relief
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Posted - 2011.08.25 16:42:00 -
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We're all invited right? R A I N B O W S |
Sasio Shihari
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Posted - 2011.08.25 16:43:00 -
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Congratulations...
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Destination SkillQueue
Are We There Yet
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Posted - 2011.08.25 16:43:00 -
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It all makes sense now.
PS. Congratulations on getting married.
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.08.25 16:44:00 -
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Originally by: Cpt Greagor We're all invited right?
If you would cover your own travel costs to Romania and contribute as much as the average guest, I don't see why not _
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Cpt Greagor
Caldari Liquid Relief
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Posted - 2011.08.25 16:49:00 -
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Originally by: Akita T
Originally by: Cpt Greagor We're all invited right?
If you would cover your own travel costs to Romania and contribute as much as the average guest, I don't see why not
I guess this all depends on what you consider "contributing". R A I N B O W S |
Zagam
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Posted - 2011.08.25 17:15:00 -
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Congrats!
My wife and I aren't religious either, and we got married in a non-church setting (Linkage) by a retired judge (which is legal in TX). Not sure if weddings in Romania have to be done by clergy, but if a religious wedding isn't required by law... you might want to look into it. ---------.oOo.---------- Chaos, Madness, and Destruction. My work here is done. |
Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.08.25 17:26:00 -
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Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 17:32:08
Originally by: Zagam Congrats! My wife and I aren't religious either, and we got married in a non-church setting (Linkage) by a retired judge (which is legal in TX). Not sure if weddings in Romania have to be done by clergy, but if a religious wedding isn't required by law... you might want to look into it.
As soon as the civil service is over, we're already officially man and wife. No religious ceremony necessary as far as the law is concerned.
However, the "peer pressure" from the older relatives (and there's plenty of those to go around on HER side) make at least a token of a religious ceremony necessary. Afterall, Romania is sadly even more religious that the USA (belief in God is over 90%, among the highest in Europe), and even older people that aren't really that religious at all would still insist on the religious ceremony "because that's how things are done". Oh, well.
Originally by: Cpt Greagor I guess this all depends on what you consider "contributing".
A Romanian wedding is usually a "half a day" affair, starting before noon (church) and ending after midnight (at the party area), with another get-together (but only for people with closer relationship to the bride and groom) for a few hours the next day. The "party" time (usually minimum 6 hours, quite often 8 hours or longer) is expected to be spent at least half on the dance floor, with a multi-course meal (usually 5 courses or more, and almost nobody is a vegetarian, so such options are seldom even considered) spread in between dancing sessions, with a wide selection of drinks (mostly alcoholic) available at all times.
Tradition for Romanian marriages is not to give useless appliance gifts or such (as is the case for an US wedding), but usually to give cash gifts. No, seriously, it's Romanian custom, ask around (or google it). Cash. Really.
The "polite" minimum amount of contribution depends on relationship to the bride and groom - godfathers are expected to contribute the most, distant relatives and casual acquaintances are expected to contribute the least - and should at a minimum be slightly over the likely amount spent by the wedding organizers per guest (so it also depends on location the wedding is held, duration, quality of food and service, how much fun you had, etc). So, for instance, a single guest of minimal relation to the wedding couple (just enough to get invited) would be expected to contribute somewhere in the vicinity of 135-170 USD equivalent (400-500 RON) at a bare minimum, just to avoid looking like a jerk, but double of that is considered rather generous.
Hey, partying is rather cheap over here.
Lately, the gifts are usually handed over NEAR THE END OF THE PARTY in sealed but named envelopes, and are opened by the bride and groom's family after the wedding is over. People (which are normally seated based on relationship to bride and groom) usually discuss with eachother how much they're going to donate based on how enjoyable the experience was. It USED to be much cheesier before though, with the collection being a public affair (starting with the godfathers and moving down the "closeness to wedding couple" ranks) and the M.C. shouting out the donated amounts. Yes, lame, but it's still practiced in quite a few places (and the amounts donated by the godfathers are expected to "set the tone" as far as donation amounts go). We're not having any of that though.
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Cpt Greagor
Caldari Liquid Relief
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Posted - 2011.08.25 17:32:00 -
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Originally by: Akita T ...stuff...
Ok, so I come, get free drinks a party and all I have to do is mail you a toaster? Seems simple enough. R A I N B O W S |
Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.08.25 17:33:00 -
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Originally by: Cpt Greagor Ok, so I come, get free drinks a party and all I have to do is mail you a toaster? Seems simple enough.
You might want to read that again _
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NeoShocker
Caldari Interstellar eXodus BricK sQuAD.
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Posted - 2011.08.25 17:44:00 -
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Congrats Akita :-)
hope your new wifie doesn't pull you away from forum whoring :P
10 years is a long time, but never really lived together? Like never together for a month or something? ----------------------------------- Peace through power!
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Cpt Greagor
Caldari Liquid Relief
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Posted - 2011.08.25 17:45:00 -
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Edited by: Cpt Greagor on 25/08/2011 17:45:43
Originally by: Akita T
Originally by: Cpt Greagor Ok, so I come, get free drinks a party and all I have to do is mail you a toaster? Seems simple enough.
You might want to read that again
I did, it definitely said toasters.
Originally by: Akita T Tradition for Romanian marriages is not to give useless appliance gifts or such (as is the case for an US wedding), but usually to give cash gifts toasters. No, seriously, it's Romanian custom, ask around (or google it). Cash Toasters. Really.
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Obsidian Hawk
RONA Corporation RONA Directorate
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Posted - 2011.08.25 18:33:00 -
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Ok so we need to all fly to Romania and bring you a ton of booze. Got it! Congrats!
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Blacksquirrel
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Posted - 2011.08.25 19:01:00 -
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Open bar? It's not really a good wedding without one... Trust me. |
Justified Cause
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Posted - 2011.08.25 19:04:00 -
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Congratulations Akita, i'll be missing your posting also, nice pronouncement time :) |
Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.08.25 21:28:00 -
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Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 21:28:42
Originally by: Blacksquirrel Open bar? It's not really a good wedding without one... Trust me.
Open bar, of sorts, yeah, that's also a tradition. Meaning the hard liquor is spread quasi-evenly all around the tables with some reserves off the tables in case any runs out (and ice brought forth more or less constantly), but the lighter drinks like beer and such are usually kept in the cooler and you need to ask for it.
Originally by: Justified Cause Congratulations Akita, i'll be missing your posting also, nice pronouncement time :)
Heh, thanks. Also, I'll still be around, just less often and in shorter sessions.
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Cpt Placeholder
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Posted - 2011.08.25 21:57:00 -
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Congratulations! You even took the proper precautions.
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Rgarcia
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Posted - 2011.08.25 21:57:00 -
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Congrats. And wow, I should have gotten married in Romania instead of TX. Weddings are to get money? Woohoo!! My wedding was cool but man, would have been better having people there giving money!!!!
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Bear Templar
Reality Dysfunction Inc.
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Posted - 2011.08.25 22:01:00 -
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Does she know about Eve?
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Jago Kain
Amarr Ramm's RDI Tactical Narcotics Team
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Posted - 2011.08.25 22:15:00 -
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Grats on your impending nuptuals, hope it all goes smoothly.
I'm not going to bother with marriage myself; I'm just going to find a woman I don't like and buy her a house.
Thank you thank you, try the veal, I'm here 'till thursday.
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.08.25 22:19:00 -
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Edited by: Akita T on 25/08/2011 22:21:44
Originally by: Bear Templar Does she know about Eve?
Ayup, she does. Not a gamer chick though, but tolerates my "gaming needs" to a higher degree than the stereotypical woman. I can only assume that's going to drastically change as soon as a kid will enter the picture, you can call my gaming days suspended for a few years for sure in that case. Heh.
She's more of a travel enthusiast (semi-obsessed with Asia and the Middle East), she's been to a truckload more countries than I have - other than the three mentioned before (USA, Germany, Turkey) where she lived for months at a time, she's quite often visited Poland, also been to Thailand and Malaysia, and wants to visit China and Nepal, also spend a good while in India whenever she can spare the time. In the "downtimes" while together, usually keeping busy with movies and TV shows. At least in the movie/series department we have mostly overlapping tastes. She's not too much into sci-fi, but not against it either, and I have wider tastes that the stereotypical man, so, eh. She co-owns (with her mother) a small jewelry business (faring rather poorly in this economy though, but before it was the perfect excuse to engage in travel "for shop supply") and is also working as a full-time high-school biology teacher (specialized in German-speaking classes). She's also wrapping up her 3-year doctorate (in silkworm rearing), should be done by the end of summer in 2012 if all goes well.
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AlleyKat
Gallente The Unwanted.
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Posted - 2011.08.25 22:58:00 -
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pics or it didn't happen |
stoicfaux
Gallente
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Posted - 2011.08.26 00:10:00 -
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Congrats!
p.s. Happy Wife = Happy Life.
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Jon Taggart
State War Academy
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Posted - 2011.08.26 00:14:00 -
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Give my condolences to your future wife.
...Congratulations!
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Dorian Tormak
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Posted - 2011.08.26 01:11:00 -
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Make sure and hide your dirty midget ****s, she may not take kindly to that kind of stuff.
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Nimrod Nemesis
Amarr Royal Amarr Institute
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Posted - 2011.08.26 02:20:00 -
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Congrats Akita and let me not be the first to welcome you into the... sometimes happy world of married life.
I think you've got a hedged bet with a wife that travels. I know my marriage would have been stressful in short order if I were not over-seas quite a bit myself. Absence making the heart grow fonder and all that.
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Umad Bro Questionmark
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Posted - 2011.08.26 03:24:00 -
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Dude, you got my utmost respect in typewriter font. May you be forever happeh and 1337.
Current state of the forums:
Making capsuleers slightly angry since 2003.
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Slade Trillgon
Endless Possibilities Inc.
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Posted - 2011.08.26 11:00:00 -
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Congratulations Akita!
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Malcanis
Caldari Vanishing Point. The Initiative.
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Posted - 2011.08.26 13:50:00 -
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Gratz man, sounds like a very easygoing arrangement. (Don't move in with her)
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Louis deGuerre
Gallente Malevolence. Imperial 0rder
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Posted - 2011.08.26 13:52:00 -
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Edited by: Louis deGuerre on 26/08/2011 13:52:13 Best wishes
Will EVE TV be there ?
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Zagam
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Posted - 2011.08.26 14:20:00 -
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So basically... family is telling you that a wedding is mandatory. At least you get to make a "profit" off the whole thing.
Also, my best man gave me this tidbit of wisdom...
"Would you rather be right, or be happy?" ---------.oOo.---------- Chaos, Madness, and Destruction. My work here is done. |
Mashie Saldana
Minmatar Veto Corp
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Posted - 2011.08.26 15:10:00 -
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So essentially you made her pregnant and now you have to marry her?
Congrats!
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Bane Necran
Minmatar
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Posted - 2011.08.26 15:22:00 -
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Grats.
And good luck living together. It's a whole other ballgame.
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Mag's
the united Negative Ten.
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Posted - 2011.08.26 16:27:00 -
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Congratulations and all my best wishes for the future.
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force Takahashi Alliance
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Posted - 2011.08.26 22:50:00 -
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Edited by: Akita T on 26/08/2011 22:52:08
Originally by: Mashie Saldana So essentially you made her pregnant
Not yet, but we're probably going to suspend any contraceptive methods after she's done with her doctorate, so if we're lucky, in a year and a half, maybe two years or so from now...
Originally by: Zagam So basically... family is telling you that a wedding is mandatory. At least you get to make a "profit" off the whole thing.
Eh, not quite, but close enough More like slowly will-eroding intermittent light pressure taps And I don't think it will be very profitable, I seriously doubt we'll end up with much more than 5k EUR leftover afterwards, at most 10k if we're pretty lucky (I already have more than that set aside as savings).
Quote: Also, my best man gave me this tidbit of wisdom... "Would you rather be right, or be happy?"
Tough choice. Me, I'd almost certainly rather be right At least that's most of my track record so far
On the OTHER hand, this whole "let's just get married on paper and we'll move in together whenever we'll move in together" was initially my idea, but that was, like, oh, 3 years ago minimum ? I seldom repeated it. But apparently it caught on _
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Sturmwolke
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Posted - 2011.08.26 23:13:00 -
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Congratulations! ... and also my condolences Did you ask whether her proposal was impulsive or thought out?
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force Takahashi Alliance
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Posted - 2011.08.26 23:18:00 -
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Originally by: Sturmwolke Did you ask whether her proposal was impulsive or thought out?
I suppose you could call it a bit of both. We were talking about marriage since almost 9 years ago, and more seriously again in the past few years, intermittently, so it's not like there wasn't enough thinking time. Heh. However, the decision to go with my very old and not mentioned again any time recently idea of "just getting married on paper for now" was impulsive. As for the "big wedding", we haven't yet set a date, we don't have a location, and it might get postponed indefinitely pending various conditions, not all under our control. _
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Pantload
Gallente Handsome Millionaire Playboys
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Posted - 2011.08.28 04:33:00 -
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Congrats Akita.
Nice date choice.
11/11/2011 will be my 11th wedding anniversary. The wife and and I are getting "re-married" by an Elvis impersonator in Vegas at 11:11.
Hope your nuptials go well!
Cheers, PL
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Sader Rykane
Amarr The Dark Space Initiative Revival Of The Talocan Empire
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Posted - 2011.08.28 08:41:00 -
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Originally by: Mashie Saldana So essentially you made her pregnant and now you have to marry her?
Congrats!
Mashie why do you separate Anastasia from the group like that. We get she's got lower SP and all but she looks so bummed out over there.
Stop treating her like the red headed step-child of the group.
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force Takahashi Alliance
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Posted - 2011.08.28 14:52:00 -
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Also, where's Ione Saldana _
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Hye Torque
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Posted - 2011.08.29 12:04:00 -
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What's a good Eve forum post without some trolling?
So, may I have your stuff? Since we all know you wont pay your wedding with the half trillion isk you supposedly have. Or do you?
On a serious note, congratz. Hope you did the right choice and we will miss your forum posts once you go deeper into the marriage stuff.
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jason hill
Caldari Clan Shadow Wolf Fatal Ascension
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Posted - 2011.08.29 13:48:00 -
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lol reading this post reminded me of when i got married .... my wife`s religion is catholic and i am protestant .any ways to get married in the church my missus wanted to get married in i had to go for an interview with the priest to see if i was a right and proper person to be married to her (yes work that on out cos i cant )... anyways i turned up to said interview wearing a glasgow rangers football shirt .... suffice to say the bloke was none too impressed ...after a bit of a chat i found the bloke to be an alright chap at the end of the talk and he agreed to marry us ...
17 years later still bloody married
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.08.29 16:31:00 -
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@Hye Torque Pfft, nobody ever gets my stuff if I ever take a break from EVE. Besides, if I do take a break, it's still going to be an active account with long skills in training break... I can always easily spare a couple of minutes per month to queue up some skills, heh.
@jason hill Well, on paper, we're both orthodox (like the vast majority of Romanians), but in reality, she's practically an agnostic and I'm practically an atheist... with the four total parents of varying degrees in the apathetic-to-casual-believer spectrum (but older relatives, that's where the plot thickens). _
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Kharvor
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Posted - 2011.08.29 21:35:00 -
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Gratz. A few words of advice for the wedding day:
1. Do not let the wedding photographer herd you and push you around. Have your best man "disappear" just long enough so you and the wife can enjoy some of the h'orderves and drinks you guys will be paying out the butt for. While the photogs are looking for the best man, you guys get to gnosh on serious grub.
2. When your beautiful bride walks down the eisle to you, force yourself to take a good long look at her. I mean really look at her. It will be one of the defining moments of your life and dude, she'll never be done up to the nines like she will be on that day.
3. She's right. Always. Weddings are for the bride. She's dreamed of this day from birth and it needs to be perfect. It won't be, but you need to make sure that she knows it's her day. Besides, It's good practice for the rest of your life together.
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Mashie Saldana
Minmatar Veto Corp
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Posted - 2011.08.29 22:09:00 -
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Originally by: Sader Rykane
Originally by: Mashie Saldana So essentially you made her pregnant and now you have to marry her?
Congrats!
Mashie why do you separate Anastasia from the group like that. We get she's got lower SP and all but she looks so bummed out over there.
Stop treating her like the red headed step-child of the group.
She is is a tribal girl from Valisk, they can't be trusted.
Originally by: Akita T Also, where's Ione Saldana
Dunno, not seen her on the forums for years.
That was the name I originally wanted when I started to play but missed it by a few years. At least I got Monica Foulkes, Dominique Vasilkovsky and Anastasia Rigel.
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Alex Sinai
Mining And Probing Specialists
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Posted - 2011.08.31 20:09:00 -
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Congratulations! May your marriage be happy and lifelong. :-)
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Something Random
Gallente The Barrow Boys
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Posted - 2011.09.02 18:31:00 -
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Edited by: Something Random on 02/09/2011 18:33:01 11/11/11 is also the day im getting my contract phone upgrade ability.
So, sit in lawchurch awaiting legal knightmare for the future happy in the knowledge im getting on the webs and choosing a new weapon of minor destraction.
Or ignore me totally and have a great time - cracking choice of day, so easy to remember you will never be in trouble for the lack of flowers and a card. Always knew you were smarter than the average bear.
Give my best to the unlucky lady of course
(edit) best add, been there done it gave my heart and it lasted a year - never again bittervet rings true in more than just EVE
Originally by: CCP Fallout :facepalm:
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Solstice Project
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Posted - 2011.09.02 22:09:00 -
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Altough it probably doesn't matter to you in any way...
Congratulations, Mr. T ! :D
Now, to keep it on the funny side ...
Of course she want's to keep her name !
Imagine ... Mrs. T ! No way ! :D
Please, just do me a favour ...
I know you're really smart and pay attention, so ...
Remember that, when you never have lived together, and will move in to one place ... ... there's a high chance that it will not work initially ...
... but just don't give up.
I have faith in you, that you and your wife can talk about problems and will have a happy life together !
Congratulations!
Now go make some kids already, we need more players here ! :)
<3
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Akita T
Caldari Navy Volunteer Task Force
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Posted - 2011.09.05 04:17:00 -
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Naaah, what could possibly go wrong ? -- famous last words
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